My Dominant Poly Self

When I was complaining about my lack of dates early in my break-up, a friend of mine suggested I write a post on Fetlife about what kind of Dominant I am.  Unfortunately, I have a vagina, and I've found that whatever I post on there I'll get a response.  Any response.  I could write about how I love men, especially marinated in chili and lime juice, paired with a sauvignon blanc, but I'm sure I'll still get a "hey baby you're cute" PM.

But, since nobody reads my blog...meh...I might as well write it here.

First of all, I've written about dominance in general.  Read it here and here.   Also, read my general guidelines. 

Okay, so here's an overview:

• I'm a mental and sexual dominant.  In my most sadistic, depraved, sexual insatiable moments, it all has a mental component to what I do. 
• I will get into your head, even if I have to go through your pants to do so.
• Because I can go into some dark places with my mental play, I do consider myself an edge player.  It may not look like that from the outside, but playing with someone's mind is not trivial.
• I'm a hedonist.  I do this because it turns me on.  My ego is only there to project my sexuality.
• I have a strong sex drive.  That's not an understatement.  I've been complimented for my stamina, by long time swingers.  I wouldn't test that if I were you.
• Although I do casual play from time to time, my dominance doesn't manifest itself fully until I get to know you.  This means, I'm doing this for the long-term.  Long-term can mean three months.  Time becomes truncated when you're poly.
• I am poly.  But I'm also loyal and committed to my relationships.  Even at my casual relationships, I still have to care about you.  I try to give time and space to the people I love.  
• While I don't hide my sexuality, I don't throw my dominance around.  I don't need to.
• I'm rather empathetic, to the point where I've been described as sensitive.  But you would be amazed what I can do with this gift.  I guess for this purpose, I've always been able to tailor made the type of domination I bring to an individual submissive.  So for me it's rather difficult to describe what kind of dominant I am.
• However, since people need labels, for the sake of brevity, the archetypes I've drawn for my dominance from in the past are mother, nurturer, whore, warrior, muse and queen. I've described myself as a sadistic kindergarten teacher and benevolent dictator.
• I strive to be authentic to my truth, to dominate from a place of compassion, and to live my life with honor and integrity.  I'm also human.  I can only be me.

I still maintain that you will need to talk to me if you want the details, but at least you have a better idea of what I'm into.