This post is a response to all the claim that his/her dominance was somehow innate. I understand that this may be a case for some people. As for me, It never felt like that. If anything, I always felt that I was thrusted into this role against my volition. I was taught I shouldn't be a strong female. Yet, everything in life has shown me otherwise.
What I was born with was an incurable sense of curiosity, a strong ego, an independence streak, a body that is sexually insatiable, and a quirky self-defense mechanism aka my self depreciating humor. I was born to be a shameless hussy. I don't deny that my personality have a big part of this. After all, how you react to what life throws at you determines how you are going to act.
But let's not ignore life experience in the equation. Part of my life experience was forged out of years of mistakes, broken hearts and egos, and wondering who the fuck I was. Every time I was in a relationship with a guy who chided me for not letting him control things, or when anyone told me being a strong female was unattractive and that I would always be alone, would make dents to my armor, but did not break me. Every time things would fall to the wayside, I would pick up the pieces and move on, because shit needed to be done. I can add all the thankless little tasks I would do for the people I love, the painful obstacles that I had to endure, the stupid decisions I made that lead me to here. Let's not forget the positive things, the impromptu solutions that turned out to be serendipitous, the discoveries I've made, and the people who've I've met and loved along the way have made meaningful contributions.
This is what has made me what I am today, and it is what I draw my dominance from. My dominance was forged from my experiences and my personality. Not unlike becoming a soldier. All soldiers are made, but great soldiers are cultivated in battle, under life and death situations. Yes, it's work, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
